I keep hearing this, coming from one of my friends. I told him at once that I would write about it. You cannot but think about it. It is so controversial and spoken of that we have to bring it up!

Why are women leading before sex and men after that? Have you ever noticed that sort of auction at work right before sex? How men make the efforts to convince women to pick them? It’s all about who pays the most attention, who makes the greatest gifts, who would actually offer them the moon for a gift?
You have already studied her behavior and it seems it fits the expectations? He could be a good father? He is sensitive? If he is, is he also a man? What do your friends think? He writes to you just the right amount of times a day? He is sharing what he thinks with you? Isn’t he sharing a little too much? Ah, he sent you THAT emoticon?

The thing is that we, women, will naturally look for emotional fidelity. There are, obviously, women who will never admit the need love, who will always shout out loud they live their life to the fullest (and, hence, do not need love). Generally speaking, this attitude hides low self-esteem, affection issues, lack of self-respect and many, many other. Sexuality, without feelings is nothing less than a pizza lacking the crust. You do enjoy all the ingredients yet, you lack the main, most important one. Everything becomes instinctive, animal-like, mechanical and sense-less.

Thereof, we, before sex, wait you, men, to join the parade. We have to be convinced everything will turn out to be great, in the end, and you must struggle. You send flowers, you take us out, you make us laugh, you introduce us to your friends and you, actually, do everything in your power to prove to us you are worthy of the prize. After Pandora’s box’s been opened, there comes despair. Our fear of not being left is pushing us to the limit. We turn into little victims, devoured and bearing no resemblance to the powerful divas we seemed before. We now become stupid

Men look for sexual fidelity. These things come from ancient archetypes, formed thousands of years ago, and also from the differences in what synapses are concerned. Hormonally speaking, we are different. There are different demons in you, different from ours.

Plus, long ago, men hunt and women waited. They still expect, nowadays, that we wait only for them. And we, of course, expect that they go hunting and come back to us. Have you ever observed how differently men and women react after being cheated on? Women say it is nothing unusual, while men feel like the end of the world hit them.

Once he met his purpose, he considers himself satisfied. He has just made the woman be faithful and will begin to play smart. Quite abruptly, the roles switch and now, the woman, will hunt for emotional fidelity and the man will play hard to get. Why would he give in easily when there are so many other options out there? Why would they when women are so strong that they will get over such deceptions easily? Why would they if women are, actually, more like a man than men, as far as getting over is concerned? Add a chaotic lifestyle, a full-time entertainment program or a 12h/day job, a break-up which is still hurting and a low self-esteem which might as well be healed with the help of young high-school and you have it. Why would they work hard for a long term relationship?
To be continued, there are more things to be said on this subject….

So, until next time…                          #stayperfectlyimperfect!